Let's start with the truth that most people avoid... overthinking is not a personality trait. It's a protection pattern.

Read that again.

If you are anything like the women I coach - high-achieving, capable, outwardly successful - you've probably been told your whole life that you're "just a deep thinker". Maybe you've even worn that as a badge of honour... I know I did.

But underneath all the rumination, the hesitation, the analysis paralysis... there's a woman who knows she was made for more. And she is exhausted from living in your head. 

I see you. I was you.

There was a time when I couldn't make a simple decision without spiralling. I would go back and forth, replaying conversations in the shower, editing texts and proof reading before sending them (and again after), and still felt like I couldn't trust myself. Every time I wanted to take a bold step - launch the thing, post the video, raise my rates - I felt like I was about to jump off a cliff without a parachute. It was paralysing.

What I didn't realise was this: my overthinking wasn't me. It was a strategy. One I had developed to avoid pain, rejection, failure and the feeling of not being "enough".

I'll say it again - overthinking is not a personality trait... it's a defense mechanism that kicks in when self-trust is running on empty. So, if you've felt stuck in a loop of indecision, self-doubt, or second-guessing, I want to tell you that you are not broken. You're just running a pattern that once worked. But... it's now keeping you small and trapped in a reality that is less than the one you desire.

How Do You Break The Pattern?

Here's what I teach my clients (what I had to learn myself):

1. Awareness comes first - start noticing when you're in the loop. Name it; "this is the part of me that's trying to keep me safe. But I don't need protection right now - I need to give myself permission."

2. Rebuild trust through action - you don't think your way into self-trust. You build it by doing the thing you don't feel ready for, and so showing yourself that you're the woman who follows through.

3. Detach your identity from your thoughts - your mind is busy because it's trying to help. But you don't have to believe every thought you think! You are not your fear. You are not your doubt, You are not your overthinking.

You Are Not the Problem. The Pattern Is.

I built my entire coaching method on this truth: when women see that the habits that are blocking them are rooted in protection, not personality or ability, they finally stop fighting themselves... and start creating real, lasting change.

Listen to me, my lovely... you don't need more productivity hacks. What you need is to reconnect with the version of you who believes that she is worthy of success, love, visibility, impact, leadership, joy - all of it. Because she's in there.

And you can find her again.

Start today with this simple question: What would I do if I trusted myself fully?

Then take one small action that aligns with that version of you.

That's where it begins. One small action today, reinforced by another one tomorrow and on it goes.

You don't need to wait until you feel confident. You just need to decide to stop living at the mercy of a pattern that no longer serves you. Because you are not the problem... no, my darling, you are the solution.

And the moment you reclaim your identity... everything changes.

Want to learn how to break your pattern and step into your power? Grab my free guide: Why Smart Women Stay Stuck (and How to Break Free). Just click HERE and it's yours.

Love you. Mean it 💋

Sabs xx